Us introverts thoroughly enjoy our own company. We don’t achieve this state of contentment through simply talking to ourselves. Instead we develop and curate these things called hobbies and thrive inside our own heads. Our minds are an intricate mess of colour as we address others in shades of grey. Meanwhile, our more outgoing counterparts constantly seek human company and conversation. They find this company in social situations that turn many introverts off. Huge parties or even meeting new people and making plans to see absolute strangers. None of those are things that an introvert will readily partake in. We need some convincing and often times, guidance.
So you’re an introvert and/or socially awkward. Sometimes fear of missing out (or FOMO, as its more popularly referred to) pays you a visit and outweighs your desire to curl up with a mug of herbal tea. You won’t let one small personality trait stop you from attending a school dance, will you? Ultimately, we all need human company. We’re social creatures! Without further ado, here it is: ‘An Introvert’s Guide to Socializing’.
Step one- purposefully make plans with your more fickle friends or the ones that have strict parents, step two- rejoice when said plans get cancelled, step three- crack open a box of green tea sachets and say you tried.
All jokes aside, it can be very difficult to step outside of your comfort zone and into a social event, especially if you deal with social anxiety. The following strategies are there to help you build up the courage to chat with a new person or text back and RSVP.
Extroversion is the dominant personality trait so it’s likely that you’re friends with a social butterfly or two. Start building your confidence and testing the waters through making more plans with these friends and seeing where that leads you. Draw off their energy. Who knows, maybe some of their openness will rub off on you? At the very least you’ll have gained a lot of valuable practice and possibly come up with a handful of tips of your own.